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Social and Mental Hijab

The hijab is mental as wellThis Hijab deals with our social interactions as well as our mental state. Since many men tend to disregard this type of Hijab, each Muslim male should pay particular attention to his social dealings as well as his own thoughts to make sure he is not breaching the barrier of this Hijab.The hijab is mental as wellA young Muslim boy was discussing how he didn’t like a particular television show. When I asked him why he didn’t like it, he responded with something to the extent of, “Because so-and-so (who acts in the show) is ___”, using a word which is unfortunately used very freely these days, even by the youngest of our generation. This prompted me to ask, “Do you know what that means?” He replied, “Yes. It’s when a guy likes guys!”

A few seconds later, a second, even younger, Muslim boy said a sentence in which he used the same word. The first young Muslim boy then scolded him, “Don’t say that word!” I said to him, “Hold on a second. You just used that word yourself. Why are you telling him not to?” He responded, “He’s too young to use that word… It’s not right.”

I then said to him, “Age shouldn’t be the issue. Either it’s appropriate or it’s inappropriate to use that word. If you think it’s inappropriate for him, then you should start by not using that word yourself. Even if it is not Haram (forbidden) to use that word, sometimes things which are not Haram are still inappropriate, and as Muslims we should stay away from inappropriate words, actions, and even thoughts.”

The point of this story is to direct the reader’s attention to the importance of an issue which many Muslims tend to overlook. The use of a particular word or sentence in an inappropriate way is an example of violating Hijab.

Hijab, yes! But not the physical clothing type of Hijab. Rather, the type of Hijab which should never be removed, not even when one is alone and simply thinking to him-/herself. This Hijab deals with our social interactions as well as our mental state. Since many men tend to disregard this type of Hijab, each Muslim male should pay particular attention to his social dealings as well as his own thoughts to make sure he is not breaching the barrier of this Hijab.

When guys talk about whatever we talk about, do we worry about the content of the topics we choose to discuss? Are they appropriate?

Dear Muslim Brother, would you be comfortable speaking to the Holy Prophet (peace be upon him and his progeny) about that topic which you are discussing?

Going even further, when we actually do choose to talk about a particular topic, what types of examples do we use in our discussions? Do they contain references to concepts which may trigger ill thoughts in the general listener’s mind?

When we react to the words of people, what are our physical gestures like? Do they give off a feeling of disrespect or disregard to the opposing side? If someone says something that we don’t like, do we cringe and display a face of disgust?

Do we pay attention to where our gazes wander off in the directions which they were not created to be directed in? 

If the answer is yes, then we have probably chosen to do something inappropriate or forbidden. If the choice finds its way to the level of our actions, then we may have breached the social level of Hijab. But the very fact that ill thoughts can settle in our mind means that we have certainly breached the mental Hijab.

Dear reader, take note of the questions aforementioned and reflect on the likes of them. Indeed, it can be argued that the most important level of Hijab is the mental level, for only if that level of Hijab is violated can the other levels fall through the cracks.

With contemplation, one can realize the weaknesses of his/her fortress. Checking the foundation – the mental Hijab – may very well be the test of all tests.

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  • OJ

    I have read that Imam Khomeni always sat with legs folded under him because he believed to be always in the presence of our 12th Imam. If we all remember that then we shall be able to have control on what we say or do.

  • Abdullah

    I believe you are referring to Ayatollah Burujardi, not Imam Khomeini – but yes, that is a very important point to remember. Thank you.

  • ?

    I don’t understand about sitting with legs folded under – what does that have to do with the 12th Imam (as, ajtf)?

  • Abdullah

    In Eastern cultures, it is a sign of disrespect to sit with your legs stretched out when there is a respectable personality or an adult present. So by always sitting with his legs folded, he was showing respect towards Imam Zaman (atf) and acknowledging that the Imam (atf) is always present among us.

  • Saba

    Contradiction is not a way in Islam. As Shiane’ Ali our belief is that Imame’ Zamana (Peace be upon him) is present, then indeed we need to be leading a life in the consciousness of his presence, and of our Creator – Allah…so each step of our character needs to be a mark of quality …after all what is more difficult…goodness or evil…both have consequences…but we know what we sow is what we reap….evil will lead to more evil…Is this a difficult logic…if not what is the ummah waiting for????
    Many blessings and salutations to our Prophet (Peace be upon him), and his pure descendants (Peace be upon them)…

    Regards,
    Huda Hafiz Foeman Allah

    Saba